Some Thoughts From an Elder Indigo
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Please note - quotes in italics below are from the auracolors.com website under description of Indigo color, by Pamala Oslie
In retrospect, I know that I am one of them, and because I really had no peer group, my childhood was not very pleasant. But the incoming group needed some elders to show them that they can survive and thrive, and my own survival should give them encouragement. I am writing this to tell these youngsters that it does get better- to be patient, and there are Indigo Guides around to help. Consider us the forward scouts who arrived early to report on the 'local conditions'.
"The words used to describe Indigos include honest, aware, highly intuitive, psychic, independent, fearless, strong-willed, and sensitive. Indigos are old souls who know who they are and where they've come from."
Being an Old Soul in a youth-oriented world is difficult, to put it lightly. Parents expect their kids to behave like kids, and when they do not, this frightens them. Precocious children can be real challenging to parents expecting a 'tabula rasa'- a child who should be a 'blank slate', ready for the parents to etch their personal values and traditions upon them. When an Old Soul, complete with accessible memories, experience, and morals and values built up over hundreds of thousands of years arrives instead, many parents react like they've got a Changeling in their midst. In some ways, they do. But your Indigo youngster needs love and care just like normal kids do- and a whole lot more patience and understanding. We are not being deliberately willful and difficult; it's just that we wish that human bodies matured faster. You'll hear a lot of "But when(s)?" from your kids.
Some parents react by being in fearful awe of their child, and letting him or her walk all over them. Don't. Others react by drugging them, or plying them with the cultural drugs of TV and videogames. Both approaches guarantee failure to thrive, and even survive in this culture. The soul might be old, but it is still subject to the animal impulses of the untamed young body. Gentle, but firm discipline is required, and the understanding that the child is still a minor must be introduced and lovingly enforced. This was how I was raised. I remember, from the tender age of about 8 or 9, champing at the bit to be old enough to do my own things, buy my own books, take myself places, and be free of the restrictions of the parental household. But while we are in your care, and until all the proper cognitive connections are made biologically, and imprinted socially, you must set firm boundaries for us. We have the potentially lethal combination of ancient memories, and unfinished, impulsive young minds. You are the safety guard. The suicide impulse is high in teen Indigos, and many of my peer group was lost because of lack of understanding of our needs. I suffered from it, too. Somehow, I made it. Yes, this sounds scary, but consider it a prudent warning. We'll impulsively "punch out" if our impatient immature minds cannot yet grasp the big picture. Again, you are the safety guard. Love us, listen to us, give us limits, and treat us like people we will become, not the impulsive brats we seem to be.
When these kids are ready, they, like me, will fly the coop at the first opportunity. I bailed at 19, and never looked back. I still love my family, but I must be independent. Do not let this sadden you, parents- it is simply that waiting 18 years to do things we were born knowing had to be done can be chafing. Please be patient with our impatience, and firm when we make the inevitable errors. Make sure that you teach your kids basic life skills like cooking, housekeeping, car maintenance, budgeting, and financial management. That last is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT in this debt-ridden society. I cannot emphasize this enough. If your own financial habits are poor, then hire a professional to teach this to your kids. It is the best gift you can give them.
This may surprise you, but many Indigos may eschew or quit college and either go straight into the workforce, or go to vocational school. Don't let this bother you- we've been there, and done that enough to see that the Emperor of Education is stark naked. Many of us, myself included, will be self-taught, skillful researchers and library-divers. When our mature gifts come on line, there will be nothing unknown to us. We will have the ability to literally pull what we need to know out of the air. We follow our own threads of learning, and often know more about certain subjects than so-called experts. And why pay thousands of dollars to learn stuff that you can dig up in a library or on the Web for free? Make sure that your kid can read and write coherently, though- illiterates will not fare well in this century. Don't whine at them about the "opportunities we'll miss" or the "money we won't make". We know what the price of those opportunities is, and have no desire to sell our souls to some faceless corporation just to have a comfier gilded cage. Many of us will be anti consumers, turning our noses up at the "magpie mentality" of the consumer culture. (Magpies love collecting lots of pretty, shiny things.)
"Some consider Indigos to be bizarre. These assertive individuals are born with their spiritual memories intact. Many parents report that their Indigo children regale them with vivid details of past lives or recent encounters with spiritual beings."
Look for some great metaphysical books and archaeological discoveries in the next decade or three. Those of us who are obsessed about our past lives enough to put up with academia will go digging in places that "experts" will laugh at. Those same "experts" will cry when the cocky undergraduate actually finds something and gets the credit for it. Many rediscoveries will be made, and the greater world will learn that mankind has been around for hundreds of thousands of years longer than current theory states. Look for some major rewrites about how this planet "defrags" itself and wipes itself totally clean every eon or so. The Earth is a laboratory with a cosmic "reset" button determined by the planet itself. And look for our youngsters finding micro evidence that human civilization has existed for far longer than we ever knew. Our scientific techniques and sieves are becoming finer and finer. They will be instrumental in validating these discoveries.
"Parents also report that these children can read their minds and seem to have amazing psychic abilities."
What is really interesting is that these abilities will strengthen and new ones reveal themselves as the Indigo ages. Many abilities are "locked away" until the child reaches a certain age. This is a built-in "safety feature" because the mental maturity to handle these gifts isn't really complete until the late twenties or early thirties. The thirties are a decade of rediscovery and recovery of the extremely high-end psychic abilities, like instant access to the Akashic realms, real time remote viewing, instant assessment of people's thoughts and intent, deliberate synchronicity (sheer "dumb" luck) simultaneous time-hopping (paralleling) and other intriguing "gifts". The healing gifts uncover themselves in the third decade also. These youngsters will be formidable healers, should they choose to fine-tune this particular gift. The fun really begins in the forties, and the "late-bloomer" aspects of the mature Indigo begin to emerge. So, if your kid seems to be brilliant, but a scattered "slacker", or turns his or her nose up at traditional education and career opportunities, take heart- the mature inner core soul knows how to bide its time, and will do so, although it might be frustrating for you at times. Remember- it is their life, and they chose to return. You were the vessel.
"An unusual characteristic of Indigos is that they frequently appear androgynous. It is often difficult to tell if Indigos are male or female, homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, or asexual. Their sexuality is not their primary concern however; it is their spirituality."
Many Indigos will not marry nor have children. This is the trend for the Elders, and will run in the younger ones, too. We can care less about sex. Some older Indigos (myself included) have often wished that we could have come in as a neuter/neutral gender so we could do our work free of the sexual harassment (to our eyes, anyway) of the breeding populace. The androgynous appearance of the main working group was the response to our request to make this easier on our youngsters. We are not interested in reproducing. That is not our task here. We are here to facilitate the great changes that are on the horizon. We also have an innate knowledge of how the Wheel of Karma works, and know, as the ancient sages did, that breeding will only guarantee that we will have to reincarnate again. Many of us volunteered to return for the task at hand, and have no plans to "go native". If you harass us about this, you will be given the cold shoulder. Do not force your Indigo child to date, marry, or pressure them for grandkids. Be content that they are here to pull us through the coming major changes.
"It's as if Indigos have both the yin and yang, male and female qualities within them."
We resist cultural gender programming. I have been told that I think "like a guy" although I am a woman. If you test your Indigo children for "gender" oriented abilities, you will find that each sex tests just as well in the "opposite" skill sets. So girls will have high spatial and mathematical abilities, and boys will have high linguistic and cognitive abilities. Left-handedness and ambidextrousness will be the norm, rather than the exception. We go for the simplest and most painless and useful solution to any problem we encounter, even if it seems to "go against the grain" of gender programming. The old left/right brain paradigms will not fit us- our brains are integrated, and use whichever hemisphere will solve the problem. This may lead to the appearance of gruff arrogance socially, but these rough edges will be polished in time. Indigos do not suffer fools gladly.
I hope that parents will find this guidance useful, and that any youngsters reading this will be encouraged. Being a late bloomer can be a drag, but the pay off is worth the wait. Be patient. Let your ancient inner wisdom guide you, not your impulsive young body. There's hard work for us ahead, but take time to enjoy this life, too. I have.
Editor's Note - Sincere Thanks to Sunfell for her contribution of this article to Metagifted. Please see her awesome website at www.sunfell.com for more of her incredible articles that will make you THINK!