How To Get the Most from Your Indigo Child
A Guide for Parents and Teachers
by Wendy H. Chapman
- RESPECT them.
- Practice UNCONDITIONAL LOVE for your child. Love them and show
it, no matter what.
- Give CHOICES.
- Give them FREEDOM to develop, balanced with SUPERVISION and
- Do set LIMITS to protect them, but not arbitrary ones.
- Tell REASONS and EXPLAIN WHY.
- As much as is possible, LET THEM HELP to CREATE RULES and fair
and appropriate consequences for breaking them.
- Give them COMPLETE EXPLANATIONS to the level they will be able
- DON'T TALK DOWN to them.
- NEVER SAY "JUST BECAUSE" or "Because I said so" and feel it is
an adequate reason for an Indigo. It isn't.
- Be HONEST with your children. Tell the Truth. They will know
if you are not.
- Avoid giving orders, instead ASK FOR their COOPERATION in
accomplishing a goal (ie. of getting ready to leave on time).
- DON'T try to MANIPULATE them. It won't work.
- DON'T USE GUILT, fear, or hate as a controlling tool.
- Be FAIR.
- Be CONSISTENT. If you say NO, make sure you have a good
reason and don't give in.
- DON'T COMPARE your childhood to theirs (when I was a kid we had
to walk 10 miles to school uphill both ways..)
- Provide EMOTIONAL SUPPORT for them and their goals.
- LISTEN to them.
- RESPECT their PRIVACY and personal space.
- TEACH your child to have RESPECT for others regardless of their
abilities and model this
- ADMIT when you make MISTAKES.
- Make time to PLAY with your kids.
- Don't do things for your children that they can do themselves.
EMPOWER THEM by LETTING THEM DEVELOP AUTONOMY.
- GIVE them some RESPONSIBILITIES around the home and CHOICES
about which responsibilities they will have.
- NOTICE GOOD BEHAVIOR and thank them for it.
- USE REWARDS at least as often or more so than
punishments. These help to get through frustrating times.
- INVOLVE your children IN YOUR LIFE. Don't shield them from it
or they will know and
will resent it.
- RESPECT any PSYCHIC SKILLS that they develop, even if you do
not understand them.
- PROVIDE appropriate TRAINING and SUPPORT for any special
talents they have - physical or metaphysical.
- APPRECIATE their STRENGTHS.
- PROVIDE CREATIVE OUTLETS for your children.
- Be OPEN to Learning FROM them.
- EXAMPLE OF AN EFFECTIVE PARENTAL REQUEST of an Indigo Child:
"I need you to help me get to the doctor on time. We have to go in
five minutes to make the appointment, so do everything you need to
before we go, like go to the bathroom if you have to. Also, since
grandma is coming later we need to pick up your toys either now or
as soon as we get home. You decide which."
I hope you find these suggestions to be helpful. Yes, I realize
these are good ideas for using with all children, but they are
also particularly effective in working with Indigos. Please
contact me if you have any other ideas for working with Indigo
Children. If you are the parent of an Indigo Child and need
further assistance, please contact me. Please see
Consultation in the Services section for more information.
SPANISH translation of this
article, "Una Guía para Padres y
Maestros de Niños Indigos: Cómo obtener lo mejor de su
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